Relationship economics

The thing people seem to not get about me is that I am at the bottom, behind the layers of hostile, arrogant, intelligent, and so on, a very sensitive person. I pride myself of putting logic, reason and thought before emotion, of course since I am also passionate things can get heated. However I have a certain point, for me I call it the "sociopath point" which is when you're dead to me.

You could be my best friend for years, and if you do some things off my list, I will cut you out of my life, just as easy if not easier than I julienne a carrot. I can take a lot of flack, I can be an emotional punching bag, or the teddy bear to cuddle when you feel sad, but exploit my good will, take advantage of that I care for you and I will cut you out like a cyste.
I'm not writing this out of anger, I'm just trying to illustrate that every person has a breaking point. Of course the point depends a lot on the person doing the breaking. I have a lot more leeway, I'd say an almost indefinite leeway for my family.  For girlfriends it can be higher than friends, and for friends it can be higher than girlfriends and its totally dependent on the situation.

But but Scelerant how do I reach that point with you?

It's quite simple actually, for everything you do that has a negative effect, you need to do something that has a positive effect. Let's say if someone loses a parent, will I be there to talk to them, console them and so on? Yes I will be, but I will not sit here and listen to the same person constantly whine about it indefinitely.  If someone complains to me every time we speak, and never does anything to change what they are complaining about, I stop wanting to have anything to do with them.
Not because I don't want them to be happy, but because I also want me to be happy, and quite frankly if someone is whining to you daily, you will become a depressed fucker yourself.

See this is what people refuse to accept most of the time when it comes to relationships, its all a trade off. The lesser of two evils so to speak. Every single friend you have has qualities that improves your life in some way, without adding excessive drama to it. If a friend of yours always brings massive drama, and never improves things for you, you don't want them to come around much do you?

If I had a girlfriend who would come over every night when I come home from work, cook me a meal, talk about whatever was on my mind at that time, and then fuck me, that is a huge plus in her "pro" column. If she comes over after I come home from work, demands that I cook her a meal, and then blabbers on about what chick at her job is a bitch this week, then puts on flannels and go to bed wearing a retainer and 3 layers of what looks like used motoroil she gets a big minus for that day.

This is exaggerated of course, because if all I wanted was someone to cook for me, talk to me and fuck me, I'd hire a hooker with culinary experience who's studying psychology. The fact is though, every relationship in your life is a trade off to some degree. I'm good with computers, I fix computers for my friends when they ask me. Just like when my car breaks down I call my friend who's a mechanic. If I need financial advice I'll call a friend who's an accountant. Their professions are not why I'm friends with them, but its part of who they are, and in my opinion friends help each other.

I'm happy to fix a friends computer, or hook up their mediacenter on the weekend. However if one of them came and expected me to wire a full home network with hidden cables and everything I would feel taken advantage of.

Hate it or love it, everything is economics, supply and demand and anticipation. The man who taught me about trading in the stockmarket once said "You're not buying and selling shares, you are buying and selling expectations and anticipations.
You see stocks are traded based on how they are doing now, in comparison to how people think they are going to be doing. If George W. Bush and Dick Cheney decided to invade Iran while they were in office, bet your behind Hallie-burton stock is going up. Now some of you may ask; "What is this Hallie-Burton" the answer is "It's the company Bush and Cheney gave an 8 year blowjob to."

In relationships its the same thing, you tend to hang out with people who have similar interests or you have something else in common with. It could be location, a love of slasher flicks or whatever. Children are often very honest about this, which is one of the few qualities I like about them. "I want to hang out at John's house, he got a Playstation 3!"
So let's just be honest shall we?